Celebrating Mother’s Day after a Significant Loss
By Megan Morrow
Published May 10, 2018
Typically, a springtime celebration of “all things mom” and “all things wonderful”, Mother’s Day can assume a different tone in the years following a significant family loss. Whether it was your mother, spouse, sister or dear friend, losing a maternal figure can make the sweet holiday more difficult and less joyful.
If the second Sunday of May finds you feeling blue, the following tips on commemorating Mother’s Day after a loss may help you find the silver lining on a sad day:
- Remember in your own way. You may look at your favorite family photo albums, visit a near-and-dear restaurant or local site, light a candle, or make a well-loved meal and set an extra plate in honor of your loved one. You can create a time of remembrance in your own way to honor the person you lost, as well as yourself, in a time of grief.
- Do not expect perfection. It is perfectly acceptable if this Mother’s Day is less-than perfect. Do your best and do not ask too much of yourself or anyone else who is grieving. Eliminate non-essential stressors that cause you more frustration than joy. Give yourself the space you need, allow for some moments of silence and simply do your best.
- Volunteer in a meaningful way. What organizations, causes or charities were most important to your special person? Make a list and find a way to contribute your time, money or skills to support your loved one’s memory, while also making a difference in your community.
- Surround yourself with loved ones. While time spent alone is important, holidays are generally more enjoyable when shared with loved ones. This may mean starting a new tradition, celebrating in a new location or opening yourself up to a new experience of what Mother’s Day means.
- Do not give up on celebration. Even if this Mother’s Day is particularly difficult, there are likely still mother figures in your life who are worth some celebration. Reach out to your daughter-in-law, neighbor or lifelong friend and let them know that you are thinking of them and celebrating them. If you are the mother who has lost someone close, dedicate some time to self-care and appreciation for all you do.
While it may take time, the good news is that most people eventually enjoy those special holidays again. If this year is hard, sad or awkward, that is understandable. Time, memories and love can help set you on the path to more future celebration.
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